CBS Says It Didn’t Avoid Kiss Shots During Grammys

Couples married during the Grammy Awards broadcast. Matt Sayles/Invision / AP

During the spectacular performance of the hit song “Same Love” that included Madonna, Queen Latifa, and the Macklemore and Ryan Lewis duo, dozens of couples were married at the 56th annual Grammy Awards Sunday night.

But with quick cuts back to performers, the broadcast didn’t show any of the couples — some of whom were same-sex couples — kissing, leaving some to wonder why.

CBS reacted defensively to the suggestion, and said that there had not been a decision to avoid showing same-sex kisses or any others.

“It was a groundbreaking and inclusive moment on television and for all who were in the room last night. It’s hard to believe that this is BuzzFeed’s takeaway from this event,” said Phil Gonzales, senior vice president of communications.

When asked separately if a decision was made in the control room at the show to not include the kisses — or if any such decision was made — Gonzales simply said, “No there wasn’t.”

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37 Messages To Young People Who Don’t Believe In Marriage Equality

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13 Things You Learn When You Date Both Men And Women

As a girl who’s done both, this is what I’ve learned:

1. It’s a lot easier for two girls to have sex in a shower…

…than it is for a straight couple to have sex in a shower.

2. Men somehow grow hair everywhere.

3. Your partner assumes you desperately want to have sex with a penis, no matter who you’re with.

So men think that they’re giving you a great gift just because of what’s in their pants.

And women are constantly concerned that you’ll leave them for a man.

4. Being the same gender often makes for perfect cuddling size.

 

(Sorry. If this isn’t true for you, I feel for you.)

But that makes it a lot harder to do this:

The alternative, while maybe not as physically exhausting, is a whole different kind of difficult.

6. Girls have so many toiletries!

How are you supposed to find room in your bathroom for all of that?

7. Women have really been taught to cry a lot easier…

And men have been taught to keep their emotions pretty far from the surface.

8. Guys generally think periods are terrifying.

When it is that time of month for you and your girlfriend, though…

 

9. Girls really do take longer to get ready.

 

10. You’ll feel a lot more like you need to shave your legs for men.

 

Whereas girls understand you don’t naturally come that way.

11. You (probably) don’t reap the benefits of your opposite-sex partner’s wardrobe.

 

12. When you’re in a “straight” relationship, there are gendered rules you usually follow for dates.

 

But when you’re dating someone of the same gender, the rules aren’t so clear.

13. But this, most of all:

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Marisa Tomei, Aubrey Plaza, And Elodie Bouchez Star In Lesbian Short Film

When film producer Stephanie Danan and screenwriter Justin Kern launched a line of luxe fashion essentials named Co, they decided to present each new collection with a short film. This film accompanies the Co Spring 2013 collection.

In the film a lesbian couple (played by Marisa Tomei and Elodie Bouchez) enter mediation in an effort to split up their possessions. It’s half lesbian drama and half clothing advertisement, well played Co.

4. Bonus? Aubrey Plaza plays a hipster at a dog park:

5. Aubrey Plaza hitting on Marisa Tomei at a dog park?

6. Watch it here:

Video available at: http://vimeo.com/61310168.

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This Figure Skater Thinks Boycotting The Olympics In Russia Is A Bad Idea

1. Johnny Weir is an Olympic hopeful for the 2014 Sochi Olympics.

Johnny Weir of USA skating during the men’s short program of 2012 Finlandia Trophy Espoo International figure skating competition in Espoo, Finland, Friday Oct. 5, 2012. / AP

He is an out figure skater.

2. In light of the anti-gay laws and actions in Russia recently, some have called for a boycott of the winter Olympics.

Image by Dmitry Lovetsky / AP

3. However, Weir does not agree with those requests, and for very personal reasons.

I watched my family struggle to make ends meet, endure personal struggles with raising an Olympian and often times forgo their own happiness so that I could have a chance at my dreams. When I qualified for my first Olympic Games, my family sold one of our cars to be sure that my mother, father and brother could attend the event and see me skate for the world. […] To have a boycott would not only negate the career of some athletes who have only one chance at competing at the Games, but also the over-time shifts an exhausted father takes to make ends meet, or the social acclimatization of a brother who can’t go on spring break because his brother needed another costume, or the mother who works part-time at a job far beneath her, just so she can afford to watch her first born perform for the world.

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5. He understands the severity of the laws in Russia, but does not think that’s a reason to boycott.

The fact that Russia is arresting my people, and openly hating a minority and violating Human Rights all over the place is heartbreaking and a travesty of international proportions, but I still will compete. […] I respect the LGBT community full heartedly, but I implore the world not to boycott the Olympic Games because of Russia’s stance on LGBT rights or lack thereof.

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7. Weir is not the first Olympian to speak out against the boycott.

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Out speed skater Blake Skjellerup also stated that he would not be boycotting the Olympics.

H/T Towleroad

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Gay High School Senior Thanks His Class In Commencement Speech

1. At Fairview High School’s graduation ceremony this weekend in Boulder, CO, senior Ted Chalfen wasted no time in his speech:

 

4. Ted continued on passionately:

“Coming out before entering high school was not a decision that I undertook lightly. I had heard the horror stories about how this could be the worst four years of a young gay mans life. I was fully prepared to endure taunting, social ostracization, and even physical abuse. But I knew what I knew, and I couldn’t hide it anymore. So I decided that upon entering Fairview that if anyone asked me…I would tell them the truth. The response that I have received, by and large, has been stunning. The amount of people who actually seemed happy to hear that I was gay outnumbered those who didn’t care. And those who didn’t care far outnumbered the small group who reacted negatively.”

6. Ted tried to continue, but was interrupted by cheers and applause:

7. Watch the speech in full for complete goose-bumps:

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37 Times You Come Out Over The Course Of Your Life

1. First of all, you have to come out to yourself.

2. Perhaps your current boyfriend or girlfriend.

3. Of course, there’s coming out to your parents.

4. And your grandparents.

6. You tell your close friends.

7. But then you have to start telling your less-close acquaintances.

8. And then to your friends’ parents when they start asking personal questions.

 

9. And then your Facebook friends.

11. And your Twitter followers.

 

12. When it’s time to get a date for prom.

13. And your coworkers every time you start a new job, and you start chatting about relationships around the watercooler.

14. Every time you’re looking for a new apartment and have to explain that your partner is not your “roommate.”

15. When you meet your new roommates.

16. Every time a member of the opposite sex hits on you.

17. Also, every time you hit on someone.

18. And, if you’re bi, every time you start seeing someone.

19. Every time you see a new doctor.

20. And every time you get an STD test.

 

21. Every time little kids ask you why you’re kissing your partner.

22. And every time a child asks why you don’t have a boy/girlfriend.

23. Every time you get new neighbors.

24. Every time you’re answering a survey that asks about your marital status.

25. Every time you start a new semester in college and face classes full of strangers that you’ll be sharing personal information with.

26. And when you have to talk to your professors one-on-one.

27. When you run into exes.

28. Every time one of your parents introduces you to a new friend or significant other.

30. When waiters aren’t sure if they should split the check for you and your partner.

31. When your hair stylist starts making small talk.

 

32. When you see your former bosses.

33. Every time someone makes a gay joke in your presence.

34. Any time someone asks if you want kids, and you have to explain that it’s complicated for you.

35. On that note, when you’re applying to adopt.

37 Times You Come Out Over The Course Of Your Life

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Research Finds Steroid Use Much Higher Among Gay And Bisexual Teen Boys

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Twenty-one percent of boys who identify as gay or bisexual say they have used steroids. That’s compared to just 4% of straight boys, according to a study published by The American Academy of Pediatrics Journal that compares “the lifetime prevalence of anabolic-androgenic steroid (AAS) misuse among sexual minority versus heterosexual US adolescent boys,” and attempts explain the differences.

Reasons for the increase in steroid use are unclear, but researchers say it’s possible gay and bisexual boys feel more pressure to have a muscular, stereotypical male physique or they think muscle-building will fend off bullies, according to the Associated Press.

Dr. Rob Garofalo, adolescent medicine chief at Lurie Children’s Hospital in Chicago, told the Associated Press the differences aren’t surprising, since it is known that gay youth often have “body image issues.” But, he said, “It is still shocking. These are dramatically high rates.”

In terms of moderate use, there were still differences between straight teens and gay or bi teens. For boys who take steroid pills or injections up to 40 times, 8% of gay or bi teens reported that amount, versus less than 2% of straight boys. For boys who take pills or injections more than 40 times, 4% of gay or bi boys reported that amount versus less than 1% of straight boys.

This data is from an analysis of government surveys from 2005 and 2007 taken from a pooled data set of the 14 jurisdictions. It involved 17,250 teen boys aged 16 on average; 635 boys, almost 4%, were gay or bisexual.

The journal said this is the first known study to to find a connection between AAS misuse and sexual orientation.

Steroids and teenagers are a bad combination. The Food and Drug Administration released a consumer update in November that stated the danger in taking steroids. They said side effects can include heart and liver problems, high blood pressure, acne, and aggressive behavior. Mood swings, unnatural muscle growth, and breast development in boys can occur if they abuse steroids.

Kids are often less open about using steroids than about drinking or smoking marijuana, but the study helps shed light on the issue, especially concerning gay and bi kids, Garofalo told the AP.

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First Look At The Film Depicting Poet Elizabeth Bishop And The Woman She Loved

1. Academy Award nominated filmmaker Bruno Barreto is giving audiences a closer look at a sprawling love affair in his film Reaching For The Moon.

2. The story follows the 1950s affair between American poet Elizabeth Bishop and Brazilian architect Lota de Macedo Soare.

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3. Suffering from writer’s block, Bishop (played by Miranda Otto) leaves New York City for Rio de Janeiro.

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4. There she finds an unlikely source of inspiration…

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5. … falling into a relationship with her polar-opposite, Soare (played by Glória Pires).

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6. The film paints an intimate portrait of a complicated love affair that spans several decades, languages, and countries.

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7. Check out an exclusive clip:

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8. And learn more about the film here:

The award winning film opens in New York on November 8th and Los Angeles on November 29th.

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Beautiful Photographs Of Couples And Friends At Soweto Pride In South Africa

Zandile Makhubu & Zanele Muholi

Zanele Muholi’s photographs are deceptively radical. A recipient of the 2013 Carnegie Fine International Prize, she regards her work as a visual documentation of black women and LGBTI experience as a form of advocacy. The joy and vibrant affection Muholi captured at this year’s Soweto Pride festivities are a counterpoint to the violence and homophobia South Africa’s LGBTI community continues to face.

On the way home from the Sowete celebration, a group of performers was reportedly threatened by a mob of 20 to 30 people just as they were getting into a taxi. The attackers jumped onto the car and attempted to break the windows in order to reach the victims. The performers were eventually able to escape uninjured but the attack underscores the significance of Pride which, all too often, is taken for granted.

In addition to photographing friends and couples attending the festivities, Zanele Muholi also filmed a short video to document Soweto Pride’s march and celebration.

Zandile Makhubu & Zanele Muholi

 
Zandile Makhubu & Zanele Muholi
Zandile Makhubu & Zanele Muholi
Zandile Makhubu & Zanele Muholi
Zandile Makhubu & Zanele Muholi
Zandile Makhubu & Zanele Muholi
Zandile Makhubu & Zanele Muholi
Zandile Makhubu & Zanele Muholi
Zandile Makhubu & Zanele Muholi
Zandile Makhubu & Zanele Muholi
Zandile Makhubu & Zanele Muholi

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