You Know How You’re Supposed To Always Want To Be Younger? Well, Screw That.

From teenage runway models to wrinkle cream ads to the weird disappearance of older women from our media, there are messages everywhere that women are at their best when they’re at their youngest.

Check out these women who are defying that sexist baloney. Then share this if you agree that women get more wonderful with each year.

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Day In The Life: A Man Vs A Woman

It’s not easy being a girl… or a guy for that matter. Some differences might not be what you think. BF_STATIC.timequeue.push(function () { if (BF_STATIC.bf_test_mode) localStorage.setItem(‘posted_date’, 1408740440); }); BF_STATIC.timequeue.push(function () { document.getElementById(“update_posted_time_3425790”).innerHTML = “posted on ” + UI.dateFormat.get_formatted_date(1408740440); });

1. Many differences exist in our normal day.

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2. Some differences are obvious.

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Guys NEVER have to wait in line.

3. But some are more subtle.

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Guys are straightforward with what they need.

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Women often feel the need to apologize and preface their requests. WHY DO WE DO THAT?

5. Do we accept these differences? Or do we change them?

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They Looked Happy, But When She Rejected His Proposal, Things Turned Deadly

On Tuesday, October 25, Jason Eaton walked into Indiana’s Greensburg Police Department and told deputies that he had just murdered his girlfriend, Wendy Sabatini. The reason? She rejected his marriage proposal.

Sadly, cases like this aren’t exactly rare. Every day in the United States, as many as three women die at the hands of current or former male partners. There’s also been a rise in men killing women simply for rejecting them in one way or another, as Mic reported earlier this year. Incidences of women simply saying no to phone number requests have ended in unspeakable tragedy.

Gendered violence in the U.S. is clearly a major problem. The root cause is believed to stem from men’s false sense of power and control over women and their bodies. Until there is a major shift in how our culture views women, these tragic events will continue to occur.

By all accounts, 43-year-old Eaton and 44-year-old Sabatini were an average couple. They both enjoyed baseball, the outdoors, and spending time with family.

Read More: This Father Killed His 12-Year-Old Daughter For The Most Insane Reason

Clearly, Eaton was important to his girlfriend. On October 5, she shared this memory board she’d made with followers on Facebook. There’s two photos of Eaton at the top, but for her own reasons, she didn’t want to marry him.

In fact, on that tragic day when he entered her bedroom with an engagement ring in hand, she didn’t let him pop the big question. Before he could even get to it, she firmly said no.

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Eaton went to a nightstand, pulled out a gun, and fired one shot into the back of Sabatini’s head. She died instantly.

Later, when cops arrived, Sabatini’s son let them into the house. He’d been away during the murder and had no idea that his mom lay dead in her bedroom. Eaton has been charged with murder and awaits trial at Decatur County Jail.

Our hearts go out to this woman’s son, family, and friends. There is absolutely no reason for such a violent, senseless crime to ever happen. Hopefully, the perpetrator will go on to rot in prison.

Read More: Father Who Raped His 12-Year-Old Daughter Gets 60 Days In Jail And Probation

If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, get help before it’s too late. To speak to a trained professional, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-3224 or click here to chat live.

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No One In The Audience Expected Her Ever To Say What She Said In These 3 Minutes

The more we hear about people “you wouldn’t expect” to stay in abusive relationships, the more that idea gets put away in favor of actual compassion for each and every victim.

TRIGGER WARNING: This talk contains verbal descriptions of domestic violence.

If you are in an abusive relationship, a crisis counselor is one of
the best and safest people to help you create an exit strategy. Do not
tell your abuser you’re leaving, and be careful about who you notify of
your plans so you can get out safely.

You can visit the National Domestic Violence Hotline website to speak with a crisis counselor or call (800) 799-7233.

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What ‘white feminism’ is and why calling it out isn’t the end of the world

Comic strips originally published on Everyday Feminism.

Feminism benefits everyone. “White feminism,” not so much.

What is “white feminism”?

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There are a lot of long answers from feminists more qualified to break it down than me
(like this one involving pizza), but the short version is that it shies away from acknowledging different people experience different oppressions based on what and how many marginalized groups they belong to.

Why does that matter? If you’ve experienced one kind of oppression, isn’t it like all others?

Actually, no. And it’s not a competition about who has experienced more or worse oppressions it’s just the ability to acknowledge that growing up as a white, affluent, straight girl is going to come with a different set of crappy experiences than growing up as, for example, a low-income white girl or a middle-class, black, queer girl.

It’s a charged topic, to be sure. Here’s where the communication meltdowns usually go wrong.

1. People who have “white feminist” tendencies pointed out to them don’t often say: “Hey, thanks for pointing out my blind spot. I’ll do some reading about this and try to do better.” Instead, it’s usually more along the lines of: “It’s really hurtful that you don’t acknowledge my place in this struggle with you, and you should be nicer to me. We’re on the same side.”

2. Intersectional feminists (feminists who experience other types of societal ick, like racism or homophobia) are often exhausted with having to coach such things both internally with feminists and externally with non-feminists, so sometimes they don’t really have the patience to “be nice about it.” That burden shouldn’t be on them when a supposed ally is falling down on the job of being a
complete ally. It’s kind of maddening for people of multiple oppressed groups to be expected to repeatedly choke back their emotions about their plight to deliver guidance to a set of people who can’t choke back their own emotion for a hot second to realize they’re not being picked on when they’re asked to do better.

3. The whole time this is going on, feminism’s critics are misunderstanding this crucial moment in feminism’s advancement, hoping it’s a fatal crack in the movement.

Well, it’s not. Sorry to disappoint you, misogynists.

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What it is is a painful and messy but necessary process that’s moving feminism on to its next level which is being a tool to wrest back agency for everybody.

So, this whole “white feminism” thing is not an easy conversation to have. Luckily, the brilliant cartoonist
Alli Kirkham from Everyday Feminism figured out how to show some important parallels in an easy way.

Like how some feminists totally get how to explain their own struggle but forget how that feels when they’re being told they’re playing the role of oppressor.

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And how the same silencing techniques that are hurtful to them are hurtful to others, too.

You can read the rest of the spot-on comic here.

What can a feminist do when they have “white feminist” tendencies pointed out to them?

Here’s a simple plan of action you can bookmark and share with friends.

It’s not complicated. Pause, breathe, recognize it’s not an attack but a request to do better, and say:

“Hey, thanks for pointing out my blind spot. I’ll do some reading about this and try to do better.”

And then actually do it. We’re gonna get there, fabulous feminists. Together!

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Have You Ever Looked At The Sexy Costumes Women Wear And Think They Don't Go Far Enough?

Costumes for women seem to be requiring less and less fabric year after year. Is that a good thing? Be sure to stick around till 4:04 for the sexiest costume … ever?

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When Women Are Able To Decide *When* To Have Kids, Look How The World Can Change

Thinking about how to help bring the world’s poorest people out of poverty can feel overwhelming. So overwhelming that for a lot of people, it’s more appealing to move on to less challenging problems with easier solutions. But here’s a basic solution we might want to consider, and it gets bonus points for being empowering, too.

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She Is What Makes America Awesome. He Is What Makes My Skin Crawl.

Rush Limbaugh is furious about this amazing woman. Read why she’s amazing after you watch this video, then share it if you think Rush needs to be put in his place.

You can see all of the reasons she deserves all the praise heaped on her here.

You can see all her honors, including some honorary degrees and a couple amazing awards from two different presidents here.

And you can share this with everyone you know by clicking down below.

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Sickening Incompetence: The Little Congress That Couldn't

While the 112th Congress was busy screwing around with the fiscal cliff that they built for themselves, the Violence Against Women Act was left by the wayside. The VAWA was originally passed in 1994 but expired in 2011 when some of the more conservative congressmen voted against expanded protection for more diverse rape victims. The anemic, watered-down version passed in May, but any promise of a full-fledged Violence Against Women Act died when the politicians decided fighting with one another was more important than protecting rape victims.

Back in May of 2012, Gwen Moore implores the house to support stronger anti-rape legislation. Unfortunately, Moore’s fears proved true, and what should have been a human rights no-brainer became a catty, partisan stalemate resulting in legislation that does about as little as the very Congress that watered it down.

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An Explanation Of A Law That Allows Women To Be Fired For Using Birth Control

Although this is a funny video, the reality of this Arizona law is not funny at all.

You probably want people to know laws like this are happening right now. If so, go ahead and share this because the more we can educate, the more we can change.

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