To the Exhausted Single Mama: Here’s What Your Child Sees

“I hadnt been my best self or parent the past month. I was weary. I was in survival mode. But thats not what my son saw. And tired single mama, thats not what your baby sees.”

By Lindsey Light

June 2016 was one disaster after another for me. I was happy to say Bye, Felicia and usher in July. You see, in the course of a month, my HVAC unit needed replaced, the hot water heater went out, and my car broke down (on the way to my sons birthday party). I wish I were making this upmy life felt like a comedy of errors, except I wasnt finding any of it funny.

I was stressed.

About money.

About getting to t-ball games and kindergarten meetings.

About doing it all alone.

My hair was going gray at a faster rate than normal, and I was without the money or car to remedy it. My usually bright and cheerful disposition turned solemn and sour. I was snapping at my kids more often. Did they listen to anything I said? I felt tired and weary and slightly crazy.

And I felt like I was failing as a parent.

July 4th rolled around, and the kids went to their dads for the day. I had walked into standing water in the kitchen the night before (water heater again?), so I knew I wouldnt be much fun to be around anyway. I kissed them goodbye and took myself back upstairs to bed wondering if July 2016 was going to be just as bad.

I slept for a few hours, cleaned, did a couple of loads of laundry, watched some grown up TV. Then I waited. When would they be home?

I texted their dad, Are the kids coming home soon? Too quiet here.

As tired as I get and as often as I wonder if Im failing and as flustered as they make me sometimes, those babies are my world. And everything feels off when they arent with me.

They finally returned home. I had their pajamas ready, and we turned on a movie and snuggled on the couch. My son asked if he could have a snack (all day, every day). I told him if he got something out of the pantry I would open it for him.

On his way to the kitchen, he stopped and said, Mommy, youre the best mommy. He was so sweet and sincere. Tears welled up in my eyes.

I hadnt been my best self or parent the past month. I was weary. I was in survival mode. But thats not what my son saw. And tired single mama, thats not what your baby sees.

She doesnt see the gray hair and worry lines.

He doesnt see the home improvements you think need done or the bills from the ones youve checked off.

She doesnt see the tears you cry after bedtime while you pray youre a better parent tomorrow.

He doesnt see the 20pounds you would like to lose.

She doesnt see the floors that you need to sweep or the kitchen table with crafts all over or the dishes in the sink.

Instead, they see a home where they can play and learn and be themselves. They see a place that they are safe and well cared for. More importantly, they see a person who is beautiful because she has made it her life work to give them the best life possible. While they cannot comprehend the dedication and sacrifice (can anyone really until she is a parent herself?), they know who is always there for themfrom tucking them in to getting them ready for their first year of school. Not just the fun stuff, not just what is convenient or fits into a tidy box. But they see a strong person who is there for all the messy and wonderful parts of parenthood.

Chin up, tired mama. They see the love. Most importantly, they feel it.

About the Author:Lindsey Light is a single mama to two beautiful redheadsDeacon and Nora. She works as a professor of English and keeps up with the local sports teams. In her free time, she enjoys reading, writing, traveling, and adventuring with her kids and Larkin (fur baby).



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Mom Knows Shell Die Before Her Sons WeddingThen He Hits Her With a Request She Never Saw Coming

Her biggest fear was that she would never see the day he got married…

For many moms, it’s a lifelong dream to see your child walk down the aisle. For Kerry Huffaker, it’s a dream she feared she wouldn’t live to see.

Kerry was diagnosed with stage 4 brain cancer on February 18 and was given nineto 20 months to live. Her 17-year-old son Dylan knew that he couldn’t changethe reality of his mother’s dreadful diagnosisbut if he couldn’t have her there on his wedding day, he wanted to make sure he gave her another cherished memory.

So with a box of chocolate long johns in hand, he popped the sweetest question to his mama while she was at one of her radiation treatments.

In rainbow-colored icing, he wrote: “Will you go to prom with me?”

Dylan Huffaker

Kerry was so touched by the promposal that she hardly knew what to say. She couldn’t believe that her handsome son would want to go with his “old, bald mom,” but Dylan wouldn’t have it any other way.

“I was taken by surprise, that’s for sure,” Kerry told ABC News. “I try not to focus too much on the future. I try to live today as best as I can, but [thought], ‘Who’s going to dance with my son when the mom is supposed to dance with the groom at his wedding day?’”

Dylan Huffaker

“My reaction was, ‘You don’t want to go to prom with your old, bald mom. You’ll be embarrassed. And he said,‘No I won’t. I’ll have the prettiest date there,’” Kerry added.

From opening doors to seating his mom for a fancy dinner, Dylan made sure she would have a night to remember.

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“That was the most beautiful I think I’ve ever seen her,” Dylan told ABC News. “I thought about it and I can look back after years and years and remember who I went to prom with. I’ll know it was someone I loved who meant something to me.”

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The Twin Falls Idaho mom had the time of her life at the Canyon Ridge High School Prom.

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And the D. J. even made sure they got the dance floor all to themselves so that Kerry could get a glimpse of what it would be like to experience the mother-son dance on Dylan’s wedding day.

The whole room was captivated as the two emotionally swayed to Garth Brooks’ “The Dance.”

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“[The D.J.] cleared the dance floor and let us dance the first half, just me and my mom,” said Dylan. “I put her through 17 years of hard times, so it’s worth it to take her to prom. I love that my mom is as caring as she is. No matter what you’re going through, she’s willing to helpno matter what hard times she’s facing.”

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Tim Tebow Just Ditched His Vacation in the Bahamas After Hearing This Devastating News

Tebow got on a plane as soon as he heard…

I don’t know about you, but it would probably take the Jaws of Life to pry me from my beach chair planted in the picturesque sands of the Bahamas.

However, Tim Tebow didn’t think twice about ditching his vacay to visit a friend in the hospital who was wounded in the Orlando mass shooting.

The former Florida Gator quarterback used to play football at Nease High School with Rodney Sumter Jr., who happened to be working as a bartender at Pulse the night of the attack.

27-year-old Sumter tried to escape as the gunman started firing, but he was shot twice in the arms and once in his back (a mere inch-and-a-half from his spine) before he was saved by another patron. A nursing student named Joshua McGill managed to flee the nightclub, but when he spotted the blood-covered Sumter behind a car, he jumped to the rescue.

McGill made a tourniquet from his shirt in order to stop Sumter’s massive bleeding long enough to get him help. As there was no ambulance available, the two rode together in the back of a cop car to get to the hospital. “‘I promise you, God’s got this. You’ll be OK,’” McGill told Sumter.

When Tebow heard what had happened, he quickly rushed to Sumter’s side to further reassure him that “God’s got this.”

Tebow and Sumter may have gone their separate ways after high school as Sumter headed to Jacksonville University to play wide receiver and Tebow made his mark in the NFL. However, a couple of national championships and a Heisman Trophy weren’t enough to make Tebow forget his roots and his old friends.

“My high school quarterback left the Bahamas to come and see me. Tebow has always been an awesome person,” Sumter shared in an Instagram post that showed him smiling next to his old pal.

My high school quarterback left the Bahamas to come and see me. Tebow has always been an awesome person.

A photo posted by Rodney Sumter (@ihollyrod) on Jun 21, 2016 at 7:43am PDT

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Pregnant 14-Yr-Old Is Told to Abort After Being Raped in Parents’ BasementBut That’s Not the End of Her Story

“Everywhere we went, friends and religious people were very adamant that we should terminate.

P.J. was only 14 years old when she met the man who would rape her.

Growing up in a military family, P.J.s parents werent typically the kind to let their kids hang out with just anybody. But when the teens friends invited her to hang out with a military boy who was home for Christmas leave, they were surprisingly fine with it.

The friends all gathered in P.J.s house, and in her parents basement, with several witnesses, P.J. was raped. Every one of them remained silent about what happened.

It wasnt until five months later that P.J. found out that she was pregnant. The truth about what had happened in their basement finally came out when she told her parents.

They were shocked, and furious. They felt guilty, and P.J.s mother, Angela, admittedly considered taking her daughter to get an abortion.

I really thought I would take her to terminate the pregnancy, Angela explains. I was pro-life but with exceptions. I didnt want to do that, but I was always told it was the thing to do in the case of forcible rape. My husband, however, said he couldnt have anything to do with the death of a child. That it was still a human life. Everywhere we went, friends and religious people were very adamant that we should terminate.

Wrestling with the decision that weighed heavy on her heart, Angela was at a loss of how to best care for her daughter. Many of the people closest to her were encouraging her to help P.J. terminate the pregnancy, but her husband, Doug, was encouraging the opposite. She was reminded of her own experience with abortion.

In college, I got pregnant and I went to a health clinic. I was 24 weeks, and I had an abortion. My mother forced me to because she didnt want to be embarrassed by my poor choices. We never spoke about it again. I have never gotten over it.

Like any parent, Angela wanted better for her daughter than what she had. She didnt want P.J. to suffer with the same guilt and regret that she was forced to experience every day of her life.

A friend called Angela and referred her to Trisha, who runs a Birth Right. She begged her to take P.J. there before they made any decisions.

Trisha was the first person to say it was going to be okay. She was the first person who actually encouraged us to keep [the baby]. As a woman, even if youre pro-life, youre told theres nothing worse you can do to a rape victim [than tell her to keep her baby]. Ive been told by everyone, especially the media, that abortion is what you do. Trish gave us Rebecca Kiesslings pamphlet. We prayed about it and it was the best thing we had ever done. After we left Birth Right, P.J. criednot because she was upsetbut she said she felt relieved and like we were in a safe place. She said she knew Miss Trisha had her best interest at heart. When we heard [the babys] heartbeat, it was over for me. This child will be a gift from God. P.J. spent a lot of quiet time reflecting. She had a wisdom I didnt have. Her strength and wisdom is what got us through.

As they pressed forward and prepared for baby James to make his grand entrance into the world, P.J.s family decided to throw a baby shower. After all, this baby was P.J.s first child, and their first grandchild. While the circumstance was unfortunate, the life of this beautiful baby was completely worth celebrating!

P.J. gave birth to her son, James, in the fall of 2011. It was an exciting time full of joy and love, but the legalities of this little baby boy meant a long road ahead for P.J. and her family.

As they moved forward with pressing charges against the man who raped her, they learned some disturbing facts that could severely endanger both P.J. and James.

Where they lived, there were no laws in place to protect women and their children conceived in rape from their rapist. Something that seems so obvious, isnt actually legislation, which is unbelievable. This man was legally allowed to move forward and seek custody and parental rights.

In addition to the lack of protection they were up against, the man who raped P.J. had also previously raped another soldiera male. He was also in the process of being discharged from the Army for illegal drug use.

The other soldier later recanted his accusation, and the rapist was acquitted of rape. He was convicted of a felony for illegal use of cocaine, but those charges were no punishment for the pain and suffering he put P.J. through.

Eventually, the rapists attempts at getting partial custody of James failed.

Today, P.J. is a happy mama who spoils James with love and truth. She attends a womens Bible study once a week, and she prays with James every day, constantly reminding him that he has always been wanted and loved.

As for their decision not to terminate the pregnancy, Angela couldnt be more grateful.

The minute we laid eyes on this child, we didnt once equate him to the rapist. Hes just as much a victim. He has healed our family in ways we cant explain. He is the most amazing gift from God. I dont even know how to put it in words.

**Names have been changed to protect the victims.



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“Probably one of the most unfortunate things in a Blokes Life is that it takes over 30 years to realise how essential you have been to build my character, my ethics and, most importantly, my HAPPINESS.”

Sunday, September 4, will mark the 10-year anniversary of crocodile hunter Steve Irwin’s death, but his memory continues to live on through the ones he loved most.

His 18-year-old daughter Bindi has commemorated her father on several occasions in herDancing With The Stars performances, and recently, his father Bob shared a letter he just found written by 32-year-old Steve.


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Bob discovered the letter in a sealed envelope when it fell out of a book he was reading during his memoir reasearch.

On the front of the envelopewas a brief but beautiful message: Please be happy to know that your strength and wisdom have been passed on.

Inside, Steve wrote a tear-jerkingletter to his parents, commending them for their “strength and endurance” in raising him and calling them his “best friends.” It reads:

Probably one of the most unfortunate things in a Blokes Life is that it takes over 30 years to realise how essential you have been to build my character, my ethics and, most importantly, my HAPPINESS.

At 32, I am finally starting to figure it out. In good times and in bad, you were there. Your strength and endurance to raise me will not go unrewarded. My love for you is my strength!

For the rest of my life I will reflect on the unbelievably GREAT times weve shared and will continue to share. Youre my best friends!


Facebook/Bob Irwin Wildlife Foundation

Bob shared the picture of the letter in a Facebook post along with some powerful words of inspiration about his late son:

Working on this book, I have been constantly reminded of Steves boundless energy, infectious humour and unrestrained passion for wildlife in our far too short a time together. But he is still here, still with me and I am able to gain strength from him. What he stood for and what he was able to achieve means just as much now as when he was here in the physical world.

There are so many people who have been inspired by Steve Irwin. I am really, really proud of that. I hope that sharing these stories can be a pertinent reminder of the enormity of his legacy, a legacy that has not only taught us the importance of reconnecting with our environment but to be passionate in doing so.

And it seems Steve’s sentiments for his father are reciprocated.

My Dad, just the legend of the universe,” he said in an interview with ABC TV. “When I was the tiniest little kid, Id look up to my dad and he was larger than life, he was just this action hero. He was everything I wanted to be. And all Ive done in my life is follow in his footsteps, mimic him and try to be him. And nowadays I just try to make him proud, mate.


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