What It Was Like Being By My Mother’s Side In Her Final Moments

Dear Mom,

You are gone.

I wrote you a few days ago, saying how I was ready to let you go and how much I wanted you to be out of your misery. Being with you and holding your hand as you took your last breath was both profoundly beautiful and absolutely devastating.

Isn’t it interesting how we’re able to feel so many conflicting feelingsat once?

The last few days have been nothing short of a wild roller coaster of emotions.

I remember those times we gathered around your bed, thinking that was it. I remember listening to your labored breath, watching the rise and fall of your chest. I remember our hands on your thin frame, hot tears rolling down our cheeks.

Then suddenly,your breath would return to normal, and we would look at each other, smile and shake our heads at your will to live.

Conversations would resume.

We would joke, cry and eat. We would take turns lying next to you, stroking your hair and face.

We would wait. We wondered what was going on in your mind. We wondered if your soul was floating in and out of your body.

You weren’t quite sure if you could leave your family just yet, but the other side looked so inviting. Loved ones were waiting for you.

On the other side, there was a permanent freedom from pain and sickness. Or maybe, it was just darkness, with our voices fading in and out of your consciousness.

Many times, I took your hand in mine or put my hand on your heart, feeling the exhausted beat.

I would try to tune into your soul.

I tried to tell you we loved you. It was okay to go, and we would be alright.

I felt you push back.

“No, I’m not ready yet.”

I would kiss your soft cheek and whisper in your ear that I loved you. I hope you heard. I hope you felt my heart reach toward yours.

I think you did. The last hour of your life, you struggled to breathe through the fluid that was gathering in your lungs.

It was so hard to hear. I hated not being able to do anything about it.

Each exhale was a moan. It was almost a plea to let it end. We gathered around your bed, our hands piled on top of yours.

Aunt Kim cradled your head and told you it was time.

We couldn’t stand to see you in misery any longer, and we would be okay.

I believe you felt it through our skin. We wanted you to be at peace. Your breathing slowed, with your body still taking in every bit of air it could.

With your last breath, I felt you leave. With your last breath, your physical body left behind the shell of my beautiful mother.

Those arms would never again wrap around me in a warm embrace. Those eyes would never again twinkle or dance with laughter. I had some time alone with you.

It was odd to kiss your forehead, hold you and tell you my final goodbye, unable to wrap my brain around the fact you were no longer in there anymore.

I wanted to reach out, grab your soul and stick it back in your body. It was the most helpless feeling I’ve ever experienced.

I’ve never felt so vulnerable and small in this vast universe. When I got home, Jarrod and I lied out on the trampoline.

You picked the perfect night to go, Mom.

A meteor shower? You think of everything.

I cried as I watched the shooting stars cross the sky.

Jarrod said, “She’s dancing up there.”

I believe you are.

Lots of love,

Your daughter

Read more: http://elitedaily.com/life/culture/letter-to-passing-mother/1254371/

Weeks After Losing His 12-Year-Old Daughter To Cancer, A Man Discovered A Letter She Left Behind

Dean Orchard was shocked when he discovered a note written by his daughter Athena hidden behind her full-length mirror.

1. Athena Orchard, a 12-year-old from New Parks, Leicester, passed away last Wednesday. She lost her battle against bone cancer, which she had only been diagnosed with in December.

Athena Orchard, a 12-year-old from New Parks, Leicester, passed away last Wednesday. She lost her battle against bone cancer, which she had only been diagnosed with in December.

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2. Her father Dean was going through her things a few days later when he made a shocking discovery. The little girl had scrawled a heartfelt note to her friends and family behind her full-length mirror.

Her father Dean was going through her things a few days later when he made a shocking discovery. The little girl had scrawled a heartfelt note to her friends and family behind her full-length mirror.

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3. Athena’s last message spans the length of the whole back of the mirror, here are excerpts from it:

“Happiness depends upon ourselves.

“Maybe it’s not about the happy ending, maybe it’s about the story.

“The purpose of life is a life of purpose.

“The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra. Happiness is a direction not a destination.

“Thank you for existing. Be happy, be free, believe, forever young.

“You know my name, not my story.

“You have heard what I’ve done, but not what I’ve been through.

“Love is like glass, looks so lovely, but it’s easy to shatter.

“Love is rare, life is strange, nothing lasts and people change.

“Every day is special, so make the most of it. You could get a life-ending illness tomorrow so make the most of every day.

“Life is only bad if you make it bad.

“If someone loves you then they wouldn’t let you slip away no matter how hard the situation is.

“Remember that life is full of ups and downs, without the downs the ups don’t mean anything.

“I’m waiting to fall in love with someone I can open my heart to.

“Love is not about who you can see spending your future with it’s about who you can’t see spending your life without.

“Life is a game for everyone but love is the only prize.”

4. The 12-year-old’s illness came on suddenly when she discovered a lump on her head last year. She collapsed and blacked out at Christmas. Over the last few months she went through intense chemotherapy.

The 12-year-old's illness came on suddenly when she discovered a lump on her head last year. She collapsed and blacked out at Christmas. Over the last few months she went through intense chemotherapy.

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5. Her parents told local reporters that the note’s discovery was incredible. They never knew anything was behind the mirror because it was always leaning against the wall.

Her parents told local reporters that the note's discovery was incredible. They never knew anything was behind the mirror because it was always leaning against the wall.

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Read more: http://buzzfeed.com/ryanhatesthis/a-daughters-hidden-letter-behind-her-mirror

Mom Arrested After Making Preteen Son Walk Naked Around School As Punishment

Weve allendured unpleasant punishmentsas the result of bad behavior. Maybeyour parents grounded you from going out, made you hand over your cell phone or sentenced you to a long list of chores.

As kids, we always think our parents are evil beings, or that they get some sort of sick enjoyment out of using disciplinary actions to make us miserable.

Butonce you reach adulthood, you begin torealize your parents only grounded you to teach youvalues and make you a better person.

Mothers Reveal The Real Reasons You Should Appreciate Them [LABS]

However, a stern mother from Georgia recently took one of her childrens punishments a little too far.

Thats right: A mom was just arrested for making her 11-year-old son walk naked around school.

Yeah, and you thought YOUR parents were cruel for sentencing you to a timeout in the corner, or revoking your television privileges.

The 32-year-old woman,Joyce Sweetheart Cole, wascharged with child cruelty and detained by the police after she made her11-year-old son strip down and walk outside his elementary school as punishment.

Read more: http://elitedaily.com/news/mom-arrested-son-walk-naked-school/1687892/

The Kids Are All Right: How Being Raised By Two Mothers Shaped My Life

On Tuesday, November 10, a judge in Utah took away a lesbian couple’s daughter.

He claimed the 1-year-old would be“better off”with heterosexual parents.

When I first heard the news, I was absolutely livid.

Let me explain why this issue cut so deep for me. I am the child of 1990s lesbians, and I turned out absolutely fine.

I have a full-time job, an amazing boyfriend whom I love dearly and an Ivy League degree in history.

How would I be “better off with heterosexual parents?”

Would I be into neuroscience? Would I have a career helping low-income dogs?

Would I have invented an iPhone that doesn’t lose battery after a night of drunk texting?

I dont think so.

There is an 1-year-old girl in Utah who could have turned out fine, just like I did, with two kickass moms.

In 1993, gay people could not get married in any state in American, as well as he oh-so progressive, forward-thinking Canada.

The year of 1993 also happens to when I was born.

In a hospital room in Berkeley, CA, a young couple (my parents) welcomed their daughter into the world surrounded by friends and family.

They reached for the birth certificate. The boxes read, “Mother and father.”

My lesbian parents’ joy was temporarily interrupted by the stifling rigidity of paper work.

In 1993 in the state of California, you could not put two womens names on a birth certificate.

The processwas finally changed in2014,and now there are boxes with ungendered “parent” markers.

California (a queer promise land of sorts) has got this covered, but in some states, including, Indiana, Florida, and Wisconsin, birth certificates (unlike marriage) stillhave to be between a man and a woman.

But now, its 2015.

You will see queer men, women and everyone else on the gender and sexuality spectrum running around with their little ones. Most children of the LBGTQ+ movement are younger.

However, there is a small handful of us“first generation” LGBTQ+ children.

At the age of 22, I have only met two others born and/or adopted to a lesbian couple around my age.

There are a couple of reasons for this.

First of all, there were a lot of things standing in LGBTQ+ parents way in the early 1990s. As our world becomes more accepting, the LGBTQ+ community expands.

The other reasons were more legally based.

There were laws about adoption, custody, foster care and sperm banks. The only way to get a child was a fight.

Even worse, there were absolutely no laws protecting LGBTQ+ parents.

The narrative of one mother and one father was so pervasive that there didn’t need to be a law saying you couldn’t put two women on a birth certificate.

Again, there were just two boxes. One box for men, and one box for women. End of story.

In 1993, my father was in the room when I was born. This is the part of the story where most people get confused.

“Wait? You have a father?”

“He was, like, a sperm donor?”

“So, like, one of your mom’s is bisexual?”

“Oh, so your mother was married and then turned into a lesbian. I get it.”

The answer to the aforementioned questions remains the same: no.

I have a father. Until science creates a way to make two eggs into a baby, everyone has a parent with sperm.

He’s really more than just a guy with sperm. He raises chickens, helps build cabins in Michigan, wears a lot of old, worn t-shirts with the arms cut of.

You know, dad stuff.

So, I really should say I have three parents. I have two moms and a dad.

My dad, by the time I was born, was a close, dear family friend. After I was born, he was actually became family.

My mothers had met him several years before I was born. One of mymothers and my father worked together.

Oh, and they worked with his wife, too. My stepmother.

By now, you have probably figured out that my family situation is extremely unique.

I dont have two parents. I have four parents.

My family consists of two moms, one stepmom (the good kind, not the evil Disney movie kind) and a dad. Oh, and lets not forget about my father’s kids, my three siblings.

My family has many wonderful, colorful characters. We are a massive, big, unconventional family.

We are like a tree with a slew of intricate branches.

They say it takes a village, and boy are we a village.

Our village is teeming with musicians, comedians and selfless people who devote their lives working with high-risk kids.

There is an old joke that lesbians are do-gooders. Lesbians are always thought of as kindergarten teachers or people work at an NGO.

It’s probably the nicest stereotype about the LGBTQ+ community.

However a stereotype, regardless of how nice it is, is always harmful.

Both of my mothers have do-gooder professions. They have spent their lives working in either in public education or in the protection of at-risk youth.

In my opinion, their hands-on experience of working with high-risk kids make them far more qualified to raise children than a lot of straight couples I know.

When conservatives were debating gay marriage, they argued “gays” would ruin the “sanctity” of marriage.

Listen: Anyone, including straight people, can ruin the sanctity of children.

The 1-year-old who was taken from her lesbian mothers in Utah was already stuck in the foster care system.

It’s a system that nationally is understaffed and riddled with issues like abuse, neglect, overcrowdingand bullying.

The worst targets of bullying are often LGBTQ+ children.

The lesbians fostering this child didnt put her in foster care. They helped her and cared for her when no one else would.

For over 22 years, I have heard horror stories about nearly everything that can happen to people in the LGBTQ+ community.

The community is overcome with everything from legal cases to hate crimes, slurs and simply existing in the world.

In 2015, it marked the deaths of 21trans women.

A lesbian couple in could faceprison time in Costa Ricafor marrying after finding a loophole. (One of them was accidentally issued a male birth certificate.)

Nearly half of bisexual women experiencesexually assaultin their lifetimes.

When the lesbian couple in Utah was interviewed by a localnews show, one stated, “I was kind of caught off guard because I didnt think anything like that would happen anymore.”

Sadly, even in 2015, when gay people can get married in this country, the fight is far from over.

Read more: http://elitedaily.com/life/culture/two-mothers-shaped-my-life/1283902/

Man Finds Out His Wife’s Water Broke When He Was Out Of Town

Man Finds Out His Wife’s Water Broke When He Was Out Of Town

Film maker Casey Neistat was in San Francisco for work even though his wife was extremely pregnant in Houston because they didn’t think she was ready yet. They were wrong. Casey got a text in his hotel room from his wife that her water just broke. From that moment, he rushed to get back to Houston in time for the birth of his daughter. Will he make it?

 

Read more: http://www.viralviralvideos.com/2014/12/23/man-finds-out-his-wifes-water-broke-when-he-was-out-of-town/

Mom Leaves Brutal Warning Letter for Husband Before Leaving Him Alone With the Six Kids for the Weekend

  • “I wanted to go over a few things with you before you embark on this weekend alone…with the others.”

Read more: http://cheezburger.com/901381/mom-leaves-brutal-warning-letter-for-husband-before-leaving-him-alone-with-the-six-kids

9 Roles You Fill While Watching Your Single Mom Date Again

When I was 17, my dad left my mom for the flight attendant on his corporate jet.

The only part worse than my own heartbreak was watching my beautiful mom hurt so deeply.

I worried she would never heal or open herself up to love again.

Now, four years later, shes been in one serious relationship and casually dated several men.

Watching your 50-something-year-old mom date is an experience unlike anything else.

Here are ninedifferent roles you’ll fill to express your complicated emotions:

1. Nosy Best Friend

When you first hear that your mom met someone potentially exciting, you want to know everything about this guy.

Howd you meet? Why is he single?

How fit is he? Is heskinny runner typeor stocky lifter type?

Your relationship evolves from mother-daughter to friend-friend.

Getting all the dirty detailshelps distract you from your own dating drought.


2. Fashion Guru

When it comes time for your mom to go out to dinner with her new man, youll know just what color top she should wear, how low the neckline should be and what shoes to choose.

Its a good thing she has you, or shed be going out on the town looking like a “What Not To Wear”contestant waiting for an intervention.


3. Texting Wizard

Not only are you her personal stylist, but youre also her modern technology coach.

They didnt have cell phones when your mom was last in the dating game back in college, so shes not sure how this texting thing works.

You help her decode the number of exclamation points he uses, and you keep her from replying with paragraphs or overzealousemojis.

There should be absolutely no red hearts used until at least date number five.

Cmon, mom. Get with it.


3. Jealous SO

Youre genuinely happy that your mom is hitting it off with her new guy, but you start to become jealous of how much time shes spending with him.

Share your real significant other with a guy who takes her out for “Star Wars” and craft beer? Hell to the no.

You feel more single than ever now that your mom is taken.


4. One-Woman Jury

When you finally meet your moms new man, youll examine him with your harshest eye.

Sure, hes good-looking and does a pretty funny Donald Trump impression, but youre skeptical that hes good enough for your incredible mom.

He eats pizza with a fork and knife?

He doesnt like The Beatles?

How can you say those arent deal breakers?This guy should be behind bars!


5. Mama Grizzly

Youre not just judgmental; youre also protective.

After seeing what your dad did to your mom, you dont want anything like that happening again.

Your hairs prick at the slightest red flags, like an angry tone in his voice or a time he should have apologized and didnt.

If you get the feeling he isnt treating her right, youre not afraid to showyour teeth and claws.


6. Ice Cream Scooper

If your moms new relationship goes south, youre there to scoop out ice cream and cry together over “The Notebook.”

And if it goes well, youre there to scoop ice cream and swoon together over “The Notebook.”

Either way, youre the one with the Ben & Jerrys and the Ryan Gosling film.


7. Dad Disser

At some point or another, you wont be able to help comparing your moms new guy to your dad.

You know that your dad left and pulled a total assh*le move, but you still remember all the good times your family had together, like hiking the Grand Canyon and decorating Christmas cookies.

For f*cks sake, why couldnt yourdad have just stayed?

If he would have justappreciated how amazing, gorgeous and intelligent she was, your mom wouldnt be in this sh*tty dating pool again.

Why did he have to run off with the fake blonde skank who never graduated from college?

F*ck him, and f*ck the skank, too.


8. Cheerleader

So, your mom’s new guy turned out not to be the right guy?

No worries.

Youre there to pick her up, remind her how incredible and stunning she truly is and tell her how anyone would be luckyto have her in his life.

Youll help her get her mojo back, and you’ll remind her how much more to life there is than men.

Who runs the world?Girls!


9. Proud Daughter

Of all the roles youll take on, the most important is still that of a daughter.

Your mom is a real-life example of a strong, independent woman who will not compromise her beliefs or settle for someone who treats her with less respect than she deserves.

This gives you the confidence in yourself to hold out for someone who recognizes you for the amazing human that you are.

She deserves the best, and so do you.

Watching your grown mom date is crazy for sure, but if youre okay wearing a lot of hats, the experience can be a fun one.

If she marries again, youll be there as her maid of honor.

And if not, youll be partners in crime and help each other navigate the modern dating world.

So, dont freak out if your mom mentions a new guy.

Be happy that shes moving forward.

Its time you do the same.

Your bond is strong enough that no man can threaten it.

Read more: http://elitedaily.com/life/roles-single-mom-date-again/1329950/

Gangnam Style Mom (Video)

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Mike Song and his mom dancing to PSY’s Gangnam Style. She is 60 years young.

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P.S. Check out the Gangnam Style and Matrix mash-up.

Little Girl Has The Cutest Reaction When She Learns She’s At Disneyland

Little Girl Has The Cutest Reaction When She Learns She’s At Disneyland

Most parents tell their kids weeks in advance before they go to Disneyland. For days, the kids are excited and nervous over the upcoming adventure. Jorji Girl and her husband Nate tried a different tactic with their adorable little daughter.

They went on a car ride and never mentioned where they were going. Only once they were at the gates of ‘The Happiest Place on Earth’ did they stop little Ali and break the news that they were going to see Mickey Mouse and Cinderella. And yes, also Snow White! So cute!! 

 

Read more: http://www.viralviralvideos.com/2014/12/09/little-girl-has-the-cutest-reaction-when-she-learns-shes-at-disneyland/

Deaf 26 Year Old Hears For First Time With Cochlear Implant

Cochlear Implants are amazing, relatively new technology that gives certain hearing-impaired people the ability to hear in a very real sense by replacing the hair cells that do not work in the inner ear with special hardware. 

The Internet‘s viral video world was first introduced to the power of the implant when then-deaf Sarah Churman heard for the first time in an emotional viral video from 2011. That video currently stands with over 16 million views

Now Catherine Arnold‘s 26 year old deaf niece Amy has gone viral after this touching six month old video of her first experience with her new cochlear implant started making the round online this weekend. 

Amy has never heard her parents or her son before her implant and now she finally can hear her little six year old boy yell, “Hi mom!” 

Ironically, it’s the little things in life that we often take for granted that are the most magical.

 

Read more: http://www.viralviralvideos.com/2013/03/17/deaf-26-year-old-hears-for-first-time-with-cochlear-implant/